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              If you want to have a nice wife SPANK her slitely.              you will enjoy it.So will she.

I grew up in a “traditional christian family” and never believed a wife should be spanked until after 12 years of marriage and sacrificing myself for her and the kids she left me made false allegations of abuse to get custody. Has kept me from my children now for 5 years. Used differences in laws between the states to get me illegally prosecuted for abducting them when I didn’t. Ruined my business and ruined my life. The woman I was married to need more than a spanking she needs a whipping like the African American on the movie roots got (and I’d give 10,000 to be the one to give it to her too)

we all love to be spanked, really… i know i do. and i’m male. if i had a wife, we would take turns being spanked by each other.

Most women like to be spanked. I know I sure do, and my husband loves to do it.

If she’s really been bad-helll yes. She should be spanked untill she can’t sit. Husbands should have paddles for this and her underpants should be taken down. After all, we’re talking about adults so their buns should really hurt. But if she is not a problem, I don’t think us men should look for excuses.

i think wives should be spankedbecause otherwise they forget the natural hierachy.spankin should be done on the bare buttocks and cane must be used liberally

oh yes..if she’s a brat..spank her Butt..if you don’t she’ll be disappointed..feel unloved and she’ll get worse..

but first..make sure she’s into it..if she’s not..don’t marry her..she’ll only cause you trouble in the end..

How to find out if she’s into it or not?..catch her in a lie, or some such small misdeed..threaten to put her over your knee..her reaction, her words and the look in her eyes will tell you what you need to know..hehehe..

yes heck yes!! Slap her for hours!!! spank her silly!!! give her at least 1 hour a week if she does anythign that your dont like! im female and i think you should i mean my husband does!! hit her really hard!!!
i mean it do it lots at least 100 if she disrespects you

Yes, wives should be spanked. I’m now divorced and I truly believe had my husband put me over his knee when I was being bratty, we may possibly still be married. I’ve settled down a lot as I’ve aged but I still believe that women, even those of us who try to be good, will occasionally forget our place. A good bottom warming seems to set everything right again.

leslie

I have been spanking my wife on a regular basis since before we were married. She’s very goodlooking and very sexy and loves to flirt as well as fool around. SHe especially loves to wear short skirts and i have caught her a few times talking with men at the door in see-thru lingerie. I usually put her over my knee and give her a bare-ass spanking and then make her stand in a corner for awhile with her skirt up and underwear down. I have used a hair brush on occasion and once used a paddle at a party we were at in the den when I caught her with her panties around her knees and a man running up the stairs.

I’m a real traditional brasilian/italian wife and my husband use to spank me once a week by belt (he’s a police officer) when I do do something that he does not like, and I’m very obeing, sometimes I got spanked even do not doing anything. I love him I like to be spanked.

I’m not married at this moment and I would like to know and find a man to spank me. I’m a perfect wife and very beautiful too. I’m a traditional woman that knows that men have to be obeyed. Waiting anxiously a message at my email

yes i think wives should be spanked. im a 37 year old house wife that is on my best after im spanked hard my husband dosent spank me much but when he dose i dont forget soon i think i agree with the others we should be spanked often just to remind us who is in charge

Yes. But then I’m an equal-opportunity kind of girl, and I also think husbands should be spanked, as well as people who aren’t even married!

I am 27 and my wife is 21. She is so sweet, nice and a #1 brat! I can’t understand sometimes why she has to keep whining about things or has tantrums when I say she or we cannot do something. On more than a few occasions I have taken her over my knee and given her a very long and hard spanking. The day she made me really angry was when I went out with my fishing buddies instead of taking her shopping for some damn sale. She poured a can of red paint on our car. When I saw that I went ballistic and belted her. Anyway, I def think a man should spank his wife to keep her in line and show her who is boss. Only then can they be happy.

i was brought up with a hairbrush. my sister asnd i knew if we misbehaved, lied. or did anything bad it was up to the bathroom over dads knees bare bottom spanked so we couldnr sit down for a while. when i married spanking was used on me or my wife when deserved for misdeeds. a good old fashioned whipping clears the air and sure beats long drawn out periods of silence or arguing. we also use fun spanks in foreplay. once her mother took over when we both needed correction.i went over her knees first and that night we both slept on our tummies.

yes. i need to be spanked, sometimes publicly. i think the humiliation is good for me, but i learn my lesson much better if you rub my clit while spanking me.

adam created eve and hence man have complete rights over wife.ispank my wife regularly,and mostly for pleasure.i spank her on the bare bottom(50 strokes)where she is strapped to a stool.iue only cane.she considers me next to god and this is the correct attitude.for severe offences,i sduspend her from the ceiling,tie her such that soles are exposed and cae her 100 times on buttocks,thighs,breasts,soler.i tie her with rope.i sometimes spank her before frienfds.i feel i am the world”s happiest man.

Wives should indeed be spanked. When they misbehave they should quickly be brought into line. A belting best suits our needs as a couple. Ten or twelve firm lashes of the belt not only reddens her bottom but also focuses her thoughts on our relationship. I find that once or twice a week is enough to keep her focused.

Before we were married my future mother-in-law said I would have a loving wife but she was subject to temper tantrums that could only be controled by a leather belt spanking from time to time. My wife agreed to submit to my spanking her for control as needed but added that not all spankings should be for punishment. She said she would enjoy erotic 4-play spankings. All this is true and we have a loyal loving relationship in marriage. I spank my wife [best described as giving her a whipping with leather strap] about twice a month. These sessions are very sensuous for both of us,a real turn on. I’ve got to admit that I enjoy whipping her as much as I do fucking her. Welts on her bottom and thighs only last a day.

We tried discipline spankings for awhile, mostly because of testimonials like the comments above. But it didn’t work the way we’d like. After 6 months of it, it was starting to make me afraid of displeasing my husband, or conversely, I’d try to “brat” to purposely get his attention.

And my husband got really tired of always being my “Cop”.

If it works for you, great. But it doesn’t work for everyone.

I believe that a man is my Master and is to correct my behaviour if I do something bad or disobey him.. I can’t wait when he tells me to lie down, pulls down my panties and spanks me with his strong big hand. I know it is for my own good and I am grateful to him for making me a better person. I always kiss his hand and thank him. At the moment I have no man to spank me and keep me in check. I miss it terribly, there is no one to keep me in control. I is a pity that womens liberation made men lose their traditional role.

My wifeis usually normal and very loving but subject to throwing temper tantrums now and then.For example she will deliberately provoke a spanking with a tantrum. Unprovoked she bit me hard enough to draw a touch of blood -then in defiant pose said she needed to be whipped with the razor strap. I whipped her bottom and thighs severly and admit to enjoying myself while giving her a beating. The welts and weals produced were visible for four days. We made passionate love after I whipped her.

I really need to be spanked sometimes. But I’m not married. It’s a shame, cos my firm little bottom is missing a strong hand beating it!

My late-wife of 25+ years was no stranger to old fashioned discipline while growing up in the South and as a result was looking for an equal yet at the sametime a Husband who wouldn’t hesitate taking control in the old fashioned time honored manner particularly for the 3 D’s. There IS a time and place for everything and a little eat to the seat never hurt anyone on occasion when necessary…..Lonny(thelonz@hotmail.com)

Hi

I am Mona Lisa, and will like to have a huband who spanks very hard.

If you want to email me do it to

monalisa24a@hotmail.com

i like spanko, my boyfriend is one

I am a 36 year old fenale on my second marriage. My first husband took discipline to abuse, and we ended our marriage after 7 years. I have been married to my second husband for 7 years and finally told him a month ago that without spanking as discipline, I will probably ruin our marriage…I was 1 step from an affair when I told him this. I thought he’d think I was crazy…that he’d rush me to the closest mental ward, instead, he told me how many times he’s thought I needed a sound spanking. Now, a month later, I am a happy wife who loves to make her hubby smile. Do I think wives should be spanked? HELL YES!

Yes, if both parties are agreeable to it, then of course it’s okay for a husband to spank his wife. I like to know that my husband is in charge of me and he keeps me in my proper place as his wife. He loves me very much and is very good to me, but he is the boss in this house and sometimes I need to be reminded of that. The next day, when my bottom is sore (and my little pussy is sore, too!) I remember to obey him and I know that he is the man and I am the woman.

My fiance spanks me on a pretty regular basis if I do something wrong. Spanking is of course a great sexual turn-on for both of us, but it is also a very real way to deal with life issues that arise between us.

I don’t think he is abusive, I just think he is very loving. He’s both my lover and something of a paternalistic figure for me.

The spankings themselves are usually not sexual or slutty—no role play involved. Just him, me, my bare backside and his belt.

It’s usually a little humiliating to be bent over the side of the couch or bent over the side of the bed with my pants and panties pulled down waiting for him to come in and give me my spanking—those are the times that I swear to myself that I will never do whatever thing it is I have done that I am being spanked for.

40-50 smacks with the belt and I am usually a crying mess, but a very contrite girl. The week after I am spanked is usually awesome as we are very open and loving and attentive to one another.

We aren’t some weird slimeballs either with weird kicks he is a 7 figure making white collar worker and I am in grad school. We’re both pretty prominent in our communities and people would probably be appalled if they knew this about us.

We’ve been together for 4 years and I love him more than life itself, there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for him.

Couples should try domestic discipline. It isn’t for everyone, but if you’re a woman who can put her ego aside for about 30 minutes every few weeks then give it a try. Yes, getting spanked with a belt on your bare is embarrassing—but truth me told you did something to deserve it… And I’ll be totally honest, when you are sitting on your bottom after it’s been spanked—it’s warm and stingy, but the sexual sensation is very hot.

Just try it.

I know it sounds like agreeing to do this sets the feminist movement back 100000 years, but it really doesn’t.

Well, I am going to be spanked in 3 hours so I am going to go do some kissing up right now so that it isn’t too bad when I do get it.

Toodles.

My Husband spanks me once a week. I can’t be good for long. But I have to say I love he’s strong hands on my soft ass. After the spanking I always feel so good.

Spanking is very sexy, if both parties really agree and it isnt used to really try to solve any real disagreements.

But a guy that spanks without making absolute sure he knows his wife’s limits is sorta asking to get his behind kicked.

It can be cute, but there are limits to everything. I think SOfia should consider if her “life issues that arise between them” are actually being solved or just momentarily pushed away by the distraction of spanking.

Any one can earn money, and being upstanding in your community does not mean you are not a slime ball. Good luck….and remember to think

Hi im a wife at a marriage were my husband is 19 years older then me,so he should already know i need some growing up discipline and consequensces in my life.yes that means a good ass beating twice a month our the excat momment i deserve one and extra consequences like a 1000 word essay about why i did what i did wrong and how to change it for the good,.do u get my drift,i agree my man is a man who i shall learn to obey from this momment on and he should start meaning what he says by taking his strong hands and actually remove my undies and bare my bottom in privacy r not and teach me what a real fucking ass beating feels like ,,and what does it mean not to sit down for a week?

Any advice or suggestions of a non sexual nature would be apprecited.

A non-erotic spanking of another adult sounds spooky. What sort of advice are you seeking?

I would like to bring up the idea of spanking to my husband but am embarassed to do so. I have always been to dominant personality in our relationship for the past 18 yrs and would like this to change. I feel I need a spanking to help control my tantrums. What should I do?

I’m a professional person and I have a position where I have a great deal of authority over subordinates and colleages. I am male, 6’1”, very athletic and very artistic and academically oriented. There are occasions when I’m condesending in my tone of speech feel that I need to be reprimanded verbally and physically punished. Recently I admonished a constuction worker who was working at a new research site I’m responsible for supervising. He seemed very annoyed by me addressing him in such a terse manner, and I sensed that he wanted to beat the shit out of me. That night I fantasized about him yelling at me, then taking me over his knee and paddling me on my bare buttocks until I cried and ageed that he is boss and I’m to listen to him. I was so greatly arroused, sexually and psychologically. Are there any professional women out there who’ve had a similar experience? And, if so, how did you go about approaching desired disciplinarians, and asking them to provide necessary punishment? Please e-mail me at MicaDoc@hotmail.com. Thanks!

Gay people need to convert. NOW! And change your skin color! You silly nilly!

Hi. My name is Tomasz. I live in Poland (Europe) and I’m a writer, journalist-publicist-columnist-opinionist etc. I create TV channel formats as well. I love very much my wife. She needs a good spanking sometimes… But the problem is that: if you want to be next to God, you must behave like God. If a husband wants to be entitled to spank his beloved woman, he must be an ideal husband. He must be loving tender, sensible and - llast but not least - responsible, both in emotional and financial way. He cannot drink nor do drugs, he must forget about friends, fishing, soccer (or baseball for you Americans) games… I now I will be such an angel (guardian angel) someday, but not yet…

I find these comments just fucked up, for the most part. I’m a hetero male who loves spanking women, controlling them sexually and so forth, but only as a mutually agreed-upon fantasy. It’s not “natural” for a man to be in control — equality is natrual. Let’s have fun in bed without acting like babies (e.g. “I only feel good if I have a Daddy to spank me;” “I love to keep my little woman in line”). Frankly, I think fantasies about male control and female submission, all the old double standards and so forth are incredibly erotic, but while they’re fun to play with, if you actually believe them you’re a moron. Even if you’re a “graduate student” or your husband’s a rich guy. Pluhease! I’m not ofended so much as I am annoyed to see a bunch of cro-magnon men and emotionally and intellectually immature women, however educated they may be. Enjoy these fantasies, but remember that they’re just that — FANTASIES

I think that wives sould be spanked, i sould know. i get spanked at least three times a week, and it has really made me love my hubby a lot more than i did when he didnt spank me. most of the times he will catch me doing something wrong and then just turn me over his knee and give me a few good ones. but other times when i do something really bad, i get bent over the side of the bed and i get his belt. i have never gotten the cane of the hair brush, but i will see how far i can push my limits. (i think writting this will mean over the knee for me. i shouldnt be writing this.)

see yalls

Heh, I didn’t know that spanking women is so popular. Personally, I don’t mind a guy gently slaping my buns while doing me doggy style but more than that may be problematic. On the other side I found exciting being with a confident but somewhat submissive guy who doesn’t mind a gal like me administering one or two open-hand slaps over their buns — double standard, I know.

i am not yet married just 19. i have this boyfriend and we’ve been together for a 2 years now.(although we’ve been associates for about 3 years)and he gets aggressive sometimes and we begin to wrestle.realizing he’s trying to show to me his strength i am so enticed. i want it to be more than that though

i want to be spanked, not so much sexually but discipline , i guess we could play around it the first couple of times until it becomes our normal activity, but then i want true discipline. with him to teach me as well.

is it possible to get him into spanking without actually confronting him verbally? that seems so awkward to me, i dont know what he’d say to this. i feel like this is the kind of thing you just do with out talking about. i dont want to consent but i want him to continue, knowing that i really do want him to spank me.

  any suggestions to a female who's a virgin to the whole spanking relationship

I’ve been married for 28 years and love my husband very much. I have fantasized about disciplinary-type spankings for YEARS! I’m a professional nurse in upper management and am in a situation where I’m the “in-charge” person. I’d love that position to reverse at home, but am embarrassed to bring it up. What suggestions do you have as to how to approach this?

I think that if more men spanked their wives there would be fewer divorces. I wish I could find a big strong man that would spank my bottom when I needed it.

As a sexual fantasy between consensual adults the spank your woman fantasy is ok. Anything else is simply ritualistic abuse and some should seek professional help.

I am a 42 year old woman and my husband spanked me before we got married. I new right then and there that he was the one for me. I am a very strong willed woman and I need an even stronger willed man….We have been married 25 years. I dont like the spankings but I am very turned on by the man who is more than willing to give them. the key point for me is that I know he won’t let things/issues/arguments, go to far………….. I trust him with my ass and he trust me with his heart.

i’m 50, was never spanked as a child even though i was arewal brat. idepartely want to be spanked but am not in a relationship and don’t have anyone to do it

I wish my husband would tan my hid good for writting hot checks but he won;t I wish someone would because I need it bad. I need my ass busted so hard I can;t sit down for a week

i can see spanking - of the man or the woman - in a sexual manner as nice in a marriage or other relationship.

but as actual punishment, no. especially if it’s actual punishment linked to sexual acts, it makes things twisted and makes the relationship too much like a child parent relathionship. I feel like spankings like this, of the husband should spank his wife because it is the natural heirarchy of things, or that the husband is next to God for the wife, that’s both blasphemous and not mentally healthy. This is completely different from BDSM, where you submit because they’re your Master and you must, not because society tells you to or because he’s a man and all women submit to men. it makes it less special.

My husband is a very strong African man..I am a white woman. He is very loving, protective and respectfull to me. I am very strong willed, outspoken and outgoing, and there are times when I push his limits. He spanks me a couple of times a month, always over his knee and always on my bare bottom, while scolding and lecturing me on my behaviour. He tells me that in Africa, and in his culture, men spanking their wives is common. Many of our friends are African couples and we are the only mixed race couple and he tells me that all of his African male friends regularly spank their women. Last week he had some friends over to watch a basketball game, I had been out with the girls and came home a little tipsy and with an attitude. I wanted the guys to go home so that I could enjoy myself with my husband and be underneath him having some of his “African-Maledom” I guess I became a little too much, and much to my surprise he turned me over his knee, pulled up my skirt, pulled down my panties and spanked my long and hard right in front of his African friends, who were shouting encouragement over my protests. Then he ordered me to go into the bedroom and wait for him, he came in a couple of minutes later, bent me over and gave me the hardest * he has ever given me, and he is HUGE. At first I was mortified that his friends had seem me being spanked and then clearly heard me being *. But I tell you, never again will I interrupt him and his friends when they are watching a game. It hurt to sit down for several days, and once they left he bent me over and took off his belt and strapped me; something he had never done before. I am a better behaved wife knowing that I have a strong no-nonsense man that will not tolerate my shenanigans. Not like the wimps I dated before my husband.

These women who “need” to be spanked are the weirdest bunch. Years of psychotherapy could help though.For husbands-abusers, some long term prison sentences could help them befriend big Bubbas and become good girlfriends to them. Sick stuff, I tell ya. Crazy bitches and cowardly sick men who abuse them.

Consensual role-playing should not be confused with wife abuse.

See also: Should husbands be spanked?

How can any relationship be equitable when one member of the relationship is disciplined with violence? The unhealthy relationships being described in these comments are frightening. What recourse do these women have when their men are out of line? Or are you operating under the assumption that the man is always right and thus you always deserve to be assaulted during disagreement? I would truly hope that these couples lack the ability to reproduce, because any child created in these dysfunctional relationships will likely be abused either emotionally or physically.

That said, fantasy, role-play, BDSM, etc. are a wonderful part of the sexual spectrum. But it should be CONSENSUAL and NOT to “keep her focused” or “keep her in line” or “because they forget the natural hierarchy.” I can’t believe people still by into that crap.

I suspect many of the comments are really expressions of fantasy, role-playing they wish they could indulge in but probably can’t. At least that is how much web sex talk always strikes me.

Not that I really can know for sure.

well i will say this im 37 not sick in the head or a bitch as some put it . i do how ever feel that when i get spanked from my hubby i am focussed to handle the real world better and things that i need to deal with in my job. i know this life is not for all. but in the us we all have the right to choose thats what makes us great.

My husband spanks me whenever I become obstinate and argumentative, as it pertains to my own safety. Like most married couples, we have arguments, and he does not spank me for those disagreements, however, if I get caught speeding, or if I stay out too late with my friends and come home tipsy, I usually end up over his knee. And if I come home tipsy, he claims that the few extra glasses of wine increase my discomfort tolerance, so usually I am bent over the bed and am given his belt. Then the next day, when I am completly sober, I get the “proper” punishment (as he call it). The scolding, over his knee, corner time, etc. Once, he even called my girlfriends husband to “discuss” what action the two men should take to curb our destructive behaviour…that was embarassing because he relayed to the other husband how he had spanked me the previous night and was just about to finish the session. He loves me, takes care of me and is a caring loving husband. He told me before we got married about his views on husbands spanking their wives when needed, so it was no surprise. The spankings dont hurt a great deal, but I am left with a stinging red bottom that lasts a couple of days. The worst is in the summer when wearing a thong bikini, we host and attend many pool parties, I wear a sheer wrap around skirt over my thong, and the marks on my bottom can be seen, which my husband seems to enjoy.

I dont think that men should have the right to spank a female if she disagrees or does something that he doesnt like. Maybe in self-defense, like if the female is hitting him or attacking him in some way. I guess thats a little better than any other kind of physical thing he could do to her.

I believe that men and women are both equal. although, i also believe a women should be spanked…perhaps this is because i enjoy it so damn much!!:D

Only when they’ve been bad, or if it excites them.

hi, i’m 26 my hus. is 38 ,when i’m naughty! i get spanked, over his knees he knows i don’t really like it but then he says it’s my fault on friday, iwent out and got a ticket for speeding. i knew iwas in for it, so when i game home i went to him slipped of my skirt and placed myself over his knees, he understood that somthing happened, bit i didnt tell him what well after 20 i did but nit made me feel much better

What a thread - a nice “read!”

I definitely endorse spanking for fiances and wives - both when they do something wrong and when they don’t. A lot of women can feel tension building up inside them, they are a about to explode, and a good bare bottom spanking to tears can release that tension. You don’t have to wait for them to actually lose their temper or cause trouble. Sometimes it is a tension-reliever to them to know (feel) that someone else is definitely in charge.

I give my girlfriend maintenance spankings when I have time; our relationship works best with three a week. Less than one a week means we are heading for trouble.

This is a girl who never really does anything wrong, she is submissive, but strong-willed. She thrives on a combination of attention, sexual care, and spanking.

And yes, she is dynamic in business, and earns more than me right now.

In hindsight (no pun intended), if I had stuck to my plan and created a regimen of maintenance spankings for my first wife, that marriage might well have lasted. Waiting for big trouble in a relationship, then giving a well-deserved punishment spanking (what I gave my ex early on) is a cop-out. If you care about the relationship you have to maintain it. Like a car. Only in this case, unexpected flowers, unexpected spankings, listening, lots of attention, even of the teasing variety.

When you spank, ignore her protests. It is her tears that you are aiming for, so she can feel like a little girl.

How harsh you are depends on the girl and the circumstances. Most women want to try spanking, and at least fantasize about a leather strap or hairbrush. I believe in trying implements, but remember to repsect limits (unless she is a real vixen and demonstrates she needs more by fighting back, etc.)

On the other hand, with your hand, you can really have fun and let fly. Give her as much as you feel like - most women complain they don’t get enough. Although, it’s the amount of TIME you are spending warming their bottom, not how hard you hit, that they really cherish.

Try a light spanking first, unless the woman “brats” to get more - some women bruise easily. Give it a day, then let loose after you see the damage from the first spanking.

Pay attention to all the women above who wrote they enjoy being forced to show marks, having their friends hear that they are spanked, sitting on a sore bottom, etc. These are turn-ons for women, don’t judge them, be sexually generous and give them the conditions thney need to feel secure, loved, conquered, protected, mastered.

Women are strong - much stronger than we believe. They need, and long for, someone strong enough to control them - so they can be weak and vulnerable and open, to that one man only. She doesn’t perceive it as losing. She experiences it as weeding out all the weak males who she won’t let mate with her. The queen bee only wants the best.

Regards all.

I think that women need to get good spankings with a hair brush at times but i also think that men need to be spanked good at times too.

I would just love to get a good spanking right now! or even give one !!!

No, I do not think that a man has the right to spank his girlfriend or wife. I am in a relationship right now and have been living with this man for over a year. A few months ago we were having an argument while he was getting ready to leave for work. I was very upset that he was ignoring me and wasn’t arguing back. So I did something that I know I should’nt have but I was very upset at the time, I threw a cup of coffee at him. I was not intending it to hit him but it did and the coffee splashed on his white shirt. I was as shocked as he was and I didnt know what to say. He came up to me as I was sitting on the bed and he turned me around and smacked my behind very hard about 3 times. He told me that I better not ever do anything like that again. He changed his shirt and left. I was crying and hurt, I did not like the way I felt. I felt like a child. Since then I have never done anything like that to him again, but I am still a little bit frightened of him. He has never apologized for hitting me. I think that men have no right to hit a female ever.

Sounds like you both were violent with each other. While he had no to right to spank you a moment of explosive temper could’ve gone worse. You two need to talk. And you had no right to throw the coffee on him.

Many men and women enjoy spankings, with plenty of men enjoy being the ones spanked, as a form of pleasure having nothing to do with ‘rights.’ Mutually agreed upon spankings should never be confused with nonconsensual acts.

IT’s difficult to read the text of this website, or whatever it is. But I say, yes, they should be spanked, depending on numerous factors- such as are they maniulative? Yes? Spank them!

Personally, I would never hit a female. A man is physically capable of hurting a female very serverely if he becomes violent with her. So I do not believe that any man ever has to hit a female in self-defense. All he has to do really is hold her down till she calms down. Now on the other hand if a female is acting very childish or hitting or even throwing coffee like the woman in an earlier comment stated she did to her live-in boyfriend, then a spanking would probably be the best thing for her.
If she wants to act like a child, then she should be treated like one. And I’m sure a few hard smacks on her behind won’t cause any permanent damage. Except maybe to her ego. To all the women out there, if you want to be treated like a lady, then you should act like one.

WOMEN SHOULD SPANK MEN MORE OFTEN. I WAS FIRST SPANKED BY AN OLDER GIRL WHEN I WAS 10. SHE USED A HIGH HEEL. IT WAS THE MOST PLEASUREABLE EXPERIENCE I’VE EVER HAD!!!!!

I believe that under some conditions a man has not only the right but an obligation to spank his wife. When my wife married me, she promised to love, honor and obey me. In twelve years of marriage, I have had to spank her two times. The first time was shortly after we were married.We were having an argument during which she slapped my face, grabbed her car keys and headed for the door. I told her to put the keys down and sit down. She walked out the door and returned an hour later saying she was ready to talk. I told her that she had shown total disrespect for me by slapping me and had deliberately disobeyed me by leaving when I had told her not to and that I was going to have to punish her for the good or our marriage.I firmly turned her over my knee and delivered a sound spanking to her bare bottom. The next time was some years later and had to do with her countermanding a punishment my son had received. He had been in trouble at school, so I told him that he could not spend the night with one of his friends as he had planned on the following weekend. When I got home that Friday afternoon, my son was not at home. I asked where he was and my daughter told me he was at his friends for the weekend. I asked my wife why he was there and she said that she told him that he could go and that I was being unreasonable. I sent my daughter outside to play, took my wife into the den , turned her over my knee and spanked her bottom and then went and picked my son up from his friends house and grounded him for two additional weeks. I would like to hear from other husbands and wives who read this and get their opinions. Feel free to email me at greencovespringsguy@aol.com

I think that in relationships where a woman wants the man to take charge, it’s entirely appropriate. And there’s an enormous difference between a man disciplining his wife with a spanking, and lashing out at her violently because he can’t control his temper (like when people throw things at each other while fighting). I’m a very strong-willed woman, and if a man ever hit me, I’d be gone in a flash. But if a man spanked me when I was being a brat… Well, then I’d think he was strong-willed enough to handle me. If you tell your man that you think it’s wrong for him to spank you, and he does it anyway, then leave; he’s not the man for you. Of course, this goes both ways. If a woman wants to spank her man when he’s disobedient, and he’s agreeable, go for it. I wouldn’t spank my guy, but that’s a personal preference, not because I think women should neccesarily be submissive.

My husband not only spanks me but uses other forms of incouragement and discipline such as corner time, washing my mouth out with soap, loss of free time, essays and sentences, etc. I can honestly say without shame that without Him being the head of our household I would probably be a raving * most of the time.

kitten

Let me preface this by saying I’m not a crackpot or a co-dependent kook. I’m a married professional woman in my late-30’s with a life-long spanking fetish. The earliest spanking fantasies I can remember occurred when I was around six. I remember thinking how much I would fancy being spanked by David Brinkley. Go figure. I don’t know what led to those fantasies. Maybe it was because my parents believed in corporal punishment and something in my little brain folded it into the mix of what I considered loving, protective behavior. Like a lot of spankos, I’ve spent the majority of my life in relative embarrassment over my fetish. A fellow spanko friend once said something that has struck me as true: “Being a spanko is harder than being gay.” I think she was right; today you can tell someone you’re gay and because it’s such an open topic a lot of the stigma has been removed. Gay people are accepted of just being wired that way, which is only right because they are. But tell someone you’ve got strong submissive tendencies and get psychosexual fulfillment from spanking and they’re ready to give you their therapist’s card. Some of those who’ve posted are among the crowd who sees people like me as a sick, spineless shill who’s sold out the feminist sisterhood. But the truth is, even if you haven’t made peace with what makes me tick, I have. It’s as much of who I am as my brown hair, blue eyes and freckles. As a woman, I’m proud to embrace my little quirk rather than fight it. It’s a choice I’ve made, and isn’t feminism about choice? Does my husband spank me? From time to time, he does. Sometimes it’s for fun and sometimes it’s for disicpline. The fun ones are gratifying. The discipline ones are painful yet (well after the fact) satisfying to that hidden part of my brain that equates spanking with love. I purposefully sought out a dominant man - the yin to my yang - who is as comfortable as a disciplinarian as I am as a disciplinee. He’s very matter-of-fact about the role spanking pays in our life while I’m far more instrospective about the whole thing. I think he’s more basic in that he sees it as a good tool for calming down his fiery little wife. A slap to my bottom is part of our bedroom spice, but when it comes down to real disciplinary spankings they are rare. I can count on one hand the number of ” real”spankings I’ve gotten from him. Probably the worst was for throwing away some papers in a cleaning frenzy after my husband had specifically told me to let him go through them first. There were some important documents among them. The incident resulted in about twenty really hard spanks with his hand. Unlike a lot of spankos, I’m an oddity in that my pain tolerance isn’t very high, hence my husband has never needed anything worse than a paddle to get the point across and usually not even that. If he were to pull out a cane, I’d probably run away from home. To those who thinks a spanked woman is weak, let me just say that in my opinion, acknowledging and incorporating this need into my life has made me stronger. Having an affinity for boundaries but that doesn’t mean I’m a doormat. In fact, I’d wager that if my close friends knew how willingly submissive I was at home they’d fall over in shock, as they know me to be a rather aggressive person. As to the question of whether a man should spank his wife, I think it’s unwise to generalize on that point. If both partners mutually agree to incorporate this type of activity into their relationship then it’s fine. But to say it should be done because men are naturally superior is just stupid. Men may be stronger than women, but that doesn’t make them superior. Chimpanzees are also stronger than humans and I don’t see humans deferring to them. Being a brute does not make one a natural leader. And don’t even get me started on the types who try to justify spanking with Biblical verses. That’s just bunk. I do have to say that I agree with someone who pointed out that a lot of the anecdotes here and on other spanking sites are really manifestations of unrealized fantasies. But let’s not be too hard on the authors. A lot of times, a woman’s written white lies of how the she was spanked by her husband in front of his friends, etc., is the first step in a journey towards dealing with her spanking desires in an anonymous setting. And to those who flame and criticize those of us speaking out, I must just ask what in the world are you doing here? Another big lie is “I just stumbled on this site.” More likely, if you’re here, you’re here for a reason. The condemnation you spew at us isn’t really aimed at us but at the shame you feel over what drew you here in the first place. And that’s not meant to be hurtful; it’s just the words of someone who was once where you are now.

Should a woman be spannked? Interesting quetion.

I think yes but only for pleasure :-P

I personally love to be spanked but only in a sexual setting. I don’t think it has a place in a mutually respectful relationship, as discipline. You gotta wonder about women who need to be disciplined. Have they truly grown up, or are they still children who have replaced the parent with the spouse?

i recieve spanking and paddlings from my wife for a variety of offences i am plcaes over the bed and soundly spanked , sometimes i spank her but nly lightly i belive that spankings within marriage are good but should be done by agreement with both partners all mt spankings are on the bare and are for punishment purposes

As long as she’s into it..I say spank her..for punishment, fun or erotic pleasure..and a few stingy love pats on/off all day wouldn’t hurt either..just make sure she’s into it guys..or you could find yourself in jail..not in public..unless you want to find yourself w/legal problems..

Why would anyone think consenuel spanking is abuse?..the only way that can be is if an abuser is using spanking be it consensuel or otherwise as an excuse to abuse his lady..and those kind of men can be spotted during the very first spanking..

To those that believe we that love spanking need conseling?..Hey..don’t knock it till you’ve tried it..hehehehe..

i have longed to be spanked for a long time but have never had the courage to ask for it.I wish to meet a man that would warm my bare bottom.

My wife is expected to honor and obey me. In our home the man is the head of the house. Most of the time when she needs to be corrected it’s done in private. However, if she embarrasses me in front of other people I return the favor. One night a few friends were over to watch the football game and I asked my wife if she would get everyone a beer. She snapped back “I’m not your servant get your own F#####$# beers.” All my friends burst out laughing as guys will in circumstances like this. I was pretty embarrassed. Well, in a fit of rage I grabbed her and stripped her naked. I then got two of my friends to hold her bent over the sofa as I took my belt off. I gave her about 50 whacks. Her behind was well marked. After her punishment I told her that now she could get every one a beer. She reached for her clothes but I told her that she wouldn’t be needing them the rest of the night. After she gave everyone a beer I told her to stand in the corner until we needed her again. A couple of my friends commented that they thought it was hot that my wife had no pubic hair.( She is required to keep her pubic area shaved.) When she heard this she started to cry. After everyone went home I gave her another spanking and had sex with her. She told me she was sorry and that she was glad that I didn’t let her get away with being disrespectful.

Being a good Christian i no a woman is supposed to be submitted to her husband. She needs to be punished if her husband thinks she needs to be, but in the case above of the woman being displayed infront of her husbands friends is wrong. A wife is supposed to be given to her husband and her husband only. He should have done it in private and just scolded her then and he should not have let his friends bad talk her.

i am naughty. i often need a spanking to keep me in tow. my hubby spanks me when needed and sometimes i end up in the corner. his frinds are thinking of doing the same to their girlfriends too.

My husband stands behind me the rod in his hands, I am spanked firmly on a regular basis, infact daily. It is a necessary element in our relationship as I am a very obstinate girl and need to be shown my place in the household. Generally my husband will use a belt, or a rod, but there are occasions when a shoe will do quite nicely. I am spanked until the point of tears, and on the on set of tears I am spanked harder and occasionally raped in the process. Of course this is all about our sexual fantasy, but I must say, there are times when I enjoy using the belt on him. A few good welts keep me in line. But now, I am entering the domain of disciplanary punishment. I feel it is my husbands duty to punish me when required, but my husband is not of firm countenance, and if he knew I was belittling him, he would slap me hard across the face and tell me I was his little whore.

As a woman, I agree that a spanking relieves tension and allows a sort of nurturing and openess to the relationship. A good spanking and then a good holding always set me straight, what starts out in play ends in seriousness and allows us to bond in a sensual and intimate way that we both enjoy. So I say, if you both enjoy it do it. But only if it is fairplay and not foulplay.

There is something about answering to your husband that is sexually arousing and gives a woman a feeling of safety and being loved. Especially if she has lacked parental authority in her life. I myself lacking parental authority was thrilled when my husband first spanked me, and spanked me hard, it was the only time in my life thatI felt like a small child, that I felt someone cared enough to take me in hand…And this was a good feeling, if only for the experience.

So men spank your wives and spank them soundly!

you people are all sick! Go and get some help you underdeveloped masochists!!!!!!!!!!!!
As for the sadists stop pretending you believe in Christian values, when in fact you are as corrupt and perverse as those hardcore lunatics you see in the bondage films.

No, no, no…it’s not a sadist thing. In my case, it keeps our home running with peace & harmony. It’s a consentual agreement - that he will discipline me when needed and I will submit to it. As far as the argument that it isn’t Christian - check out Hebrews 12:11…and also remember how God referred to Israel as his “wife” and spoke of “chastising” her. But that’s for everyone to decide for themselves - scriptures can be translated many different ways. So the question, should wives be spanked? I guess I would say that I know it isn’t something every couple should do. But I do believe that it is something that was intended with our gender roles. Yes, wives should be spanked when necessary - if it is something that has been agreed upon. However, wives who are practicing this kind of tradional lifestyle should also give every effort to submit to their husbands and avoid the need for discipline. There would be alot less divorce if wives respected their husbands authority.

We are satanists and believe that the woman is dominant in the relationship so to hell with your scriptures and righteous hierarchial views. We think that husbands need to be spanked and respect the creative force of the goddess, with whom all life would cease to exist. Men are dispensible creatures and thus need not be revered or respected especially by their spouses. In fact in our household it is a matriarchal structure in which our husbands must submit and obey. Women need to stop giving their power over to this obviously underdeveloped and inferior species. In fact we keep our men for sexual gratification, and for dispending our frustrations through continual violence; men are good for three things, fuck, clean, money. We have a new theory in our religion that in a few years there will be a complete reversal of the roles and men will be enslaved in camps, only the pretty ones…the rest will be executed after puberty.

The black circle

My husband does his best to modify my behavior in a peacable manner, but sometimes feels compelled to scold and, when necessary, spank me. Twice (n a 2-year period), he has spanked me in pubically (on my bare bottom)and twice he has spanked me in front of his friends and family (bare bottom, again). In private, he spanks my bare botttom about once a month or as often as he feels is necessary. After a spanking, i am sent to stand in the corner, panties down. While he ALWAYS spanks hard (using his hand or a brush), the times he has spanked me in front of other people has been very humiliating.

I believe it is every husbands right to spank his wife when I married in 1994 I promised to love honour and obey him. The first time he spanked me was when I was 19 I had been seeing him for about 8 weeks we were in a club & I was flirting with his pals he came over to me and said I was naughty and that he was going to spank me when we went home I thought he was joking …little did I know.After that first time I felt confused I had enjoyed it why? I felt loved, wanted, cared for from that day on I have been his and his alone I fell in love. I have now been married for 10 very happy years and I know if I do wronge I will feel his belt across my bare bottom. He goes to work earns the money to keep me and it is my duty to look after him & our home to be a good wife.

I sometimes wished my first husband would turn me over his knee and spank me after I had said or done something really objectionable, rather than just acting hurt. We might both have felt better faster, rather than letting the issue fester. But the idea would have horrified him, as he is at least as much of a feminist as I am (and I am one, for sure). I never felt a desire to spank him, however, partly because he was always so (maddeningly) reasonable, unlike me with my temper. That relationship ended after 18 years, though we remained friends.

Now I have a boyfriend who enjoys erotic spanking as foreplay and I have discovered that I love it. I had had spanking-sex fantasies before, but did not know whether the real thing would be as much fun as the fantasy. For some people, I hear, the real thing turns out to be very different than they had imagined and does not work for them at all. But I love it.

Then some weeks ago, I did the unthinkable. I had sex with another man, a friend, and immediately felt just rotten about it all. I ended up confessing the truth to my boyfriend, not being able to live with the lie. My boyfriend was naturally angry, but he waited several days until he had calmed down and then he gave me a choice — I could accept a real spanking to show that my regret was real, and to help me remember to remain faithful in future, or he would leave me. I am quite certain he knew which I would prefer.

I won’t go into details, but he drew the spanking out over a longish evening with much lecturing (and many tearful apologies from me). He did a very creditable job, enough that I was still sore the next day and had marks to help me remember the event. But he also later that same night gave me a great deal of sexual pleasure, to remind me of why I don’t want him to disappear and what I had risked losing through my behaviour.

I am quite sure I do not want to experience that type of spanking again anytime soon, and I am quite sure that the memory will help me watch my actions around other men in future. I am grateful to still have my boyfriend and not at all angry with him over the spanking. Because he waited until his anger had abated and because I had a choice, I did not experience the event as abusive. I suppose in a way it might seem that he was claiming ownership of my body, but he did not hold me down, I could have gotten up and said “F* this” at any time, and he did not stoop to calling me a slut or whore or other ugly names, but rather just described how my behaviour had made him feel. Like my ex-husband he is very reasonable, but unlike the ex, he drew a line in the sand and called me to account for my behaviour in a way that did not damage the relationship. I feel more committed to this relationship as a result. I want the rest of our spanking activity to be light sexual foreplay, but I now know that there are some circumstances in which I will willingly submit to the real thing for the sake of restoring balance and peace. I would not accept a fully “disciplinary” relationship in which he made all the rules and punished me without my consent, or being humiliated in front of friends, etc…, but even in an equal relationship I now think there can be a place for some types of spankings.

I know I do, tho the actual spankings hurt and are embarassing but I need the limits, structure, and consequences he gave me and I always knew they were given in love.

I was spanked whenever I muck up, which was fairly often then sent to do a little time in the corner thinking about why I was there (tho all my focus was on how bad my bottom hurt) & I can say it did me a world of good and now that Im without it …. sigh

runningamok

I wish i could go over the knee and get a good well deserved hairbrush spanking on my bare bottom that is my most favorite fantasy and i would love to go over any womens knee bare bottomed

Yep, I agree that most women do enjoy a good butt warming once in a while, either for erotic or punishment reasons. Some women love reading a good spanking story (or writing them) but don’t like being spanked in real life. Some would rather do it than read about it … but I really think all women think about, or have thought about being spanked.

Kiki

I have been married for 21 years to a wonderful man 17 years my senior. Regarding spanking it has always been “up to me” when my panties will be yanked to my knees and I find myself over his lap for a firm sound painful spanking. Although many a time I have not consciously wanted to be in this humiliating position (especially when we were at someone else’s house),in retrospect I can see how I was pushing the envelope, testing or just plain begging for some attention.
I hate being spanked and find it degrading and embarassing but the knowledge that certain misdeeds,disrespect,disobedience will be accounted for give me boundries that are clear. I am the one who at times acts like a brat thus I am punished like a child who needs to understand who is in charge. The spankings are immediate and firm, no amount of begging or squirming will lessen their severity but after my bottom is warmed and hit with his hand and sometimes a wooden implement and I am sobbing over his knees, he calmly explains to me and anyone else that certain actions or attitudes will not be tolerated and that he knows of no better way to make a lasting impression. Maybe someday I will be mature enoough to never need a spanking but so far that time has not arrived, although it is extremely rare that I am punished…about 2-3 times a year. We have an excellent relationship and I am very happy.

I was never spanked growing up but now Im married have a very loving man who does not take no for an answer I am to do what he wants when he wants because Im his wife when I dont do what im told he will ask again if I dont do it then I know its going down hill. He will always give me 2 chances to obey and if I dont I get spanked most of the time face down over the bed bare butt and with a belt 10 at least. I to was a bad girl in front of friends one night and to show the guys how to make there wives obey he made me take my pants and panties off go get the belt bring it to him and say I didnt obey then he made me bend over the kit. table as he beat me 30 times with his belt then he told his guy friends each one could spank me with there belt and made me take theres off and hand it to them. I never forgot that and never had to get a spanking like that again. that was 5 years ago we are still happy together and I still get his belt on my bare butt a few times a month.

My husband spanks me when I need it, and we are very happily married. When I have a bad attitude or get sassy towards him, he doesn’t hesitate to put me over his knee and paddle my butt until I’m crying and begging him to stop.

I enjoy being a submissive wife and I have become much more obedient since he began spanking me a few years ago.

He enjoys spanking me and usually expects me to thank him with oral sex afterwards. Sometimes he even continues spanking me while I perform oral sex on him, which he finds very arousing. I am not allowed to have any sexual pleasure after a spanking because then I would confuse discipline with pleasure, but I am happy to satisfy him because he does a good job keeping me in line.

As an emotional woman, I need a logical man to straighten me out sometimes, and the spankings really work!

I am spanked and I needed it emotionally sometimes. For you women who want it and brat to get it - just ask. It isn’t becoming to behave like a brat. If I feel that edgy feeling and tension building up I say so and we dialogue about role play - then act it out. I feel his strength, get to be bratty or childish but it is fantasy. Other time there are things I am working to improve in myself and we talk and develop rules and consequences. It isn’t because I am immature or weak. I am actually very strong. However, having consequences helps me to not berate myself for messing up on my self improvement - it allows me to accept the consequences and move on. So on one hand yes, I need it - more than just fantasy, but on the other it isn’t that I am weak and require his control. His discipline releases tension and helps me be easier on myself, relax and feel safe. My “daddy” as a child was married to another woman and if we misbehaved in any way he would just not see us for a while because we “disrupted the household” Now I was a good kid - I am sure I disrupted the house like any busy child does - but I was not a brat, wasn’t mean, didn’t destroy ect. So in someways his willingness to spank me when I feel I messed up helps me to not fear that he will leave me or ignore me. His discipline relieves me of some of the overwhelming pressure I would put on myself. SO for me it is more than fantasy (although at times it is pure fantasy) but I don’t play bratty games and he doesn’t “control” me. I listen to him and accept his input readily because he is bright and intelligent and truly commited to my well being. I do get spanked for discipline - but it is not because he sees me has needing correction for displeasing him - it is usually because I have displeased myself. So yes, spank a woman if she wants/needs it - but let her be a grown up - discuss what she wants to work on - what her own standards are for herself. And women, please don’t push him to spank you in a childish I will be a bigger brat until he does fashion, if you need it for stress relief - tell him. If you need to have it feel real and you need to get some bratty energy out - tell him and role play so you can do that - but making your man stressed in order to get him to spank you doesnt really give him or you the respect you deserve.

Wonderfully well said - thanks.

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